You know what grinds my gears:: When someone tells you a soul shattering, mind numbing secret they been keeping:: And when you get mad, their defense response iz "I could have not told you"::
EXAMPLE:
HER--> "Baby, I have a secret"..
HIM--> "What iz it love of my existence? The only woman I have and cherish and will die for, what troubles you?"..
HER--> "While you've been working night & day to provide for our family & my overweight convict brother with down syndrome who doesn’t have a job and likes being nude while watching TV. I've been having sex with your grandmother…. & our neighbor Earl"..
HIM--> "WHAT! How could you.. You HUSSY! I am soo HURT!" ..
HER--> "I dunno what you mad about! I could have not told you!"
*Gun shot*
-End scene-
Really!?
Out of all the "Could have not"(s)you could have told him that was your 1st response...?? You really want a prize for doing the right thing?
Go drink a tall glass of Draino douche bag.
Matter of fact
BING! I Just Killed You With My Mind
Shiiit I took a shower today where's my prize? I didn't stab a elderly woman with a cork screw today.. Where's my credit!!?? Cuz I really wanted to. Like seriously she was walking too slow I had somewhere to be.
Here's the question:: Iz the person who makes that simple ass statement actually sorry?
What iz the true logic in that statement? Because it sounds to me like they are just low key bragging on themselves.
"I could have not told you... Like I didn't tell you about......"
"I could have not told you, cuz I done PPLENTY of scandalous things to other people.. I mean WHEW!! I am out there! You name it I've done it SHUCKY DUCKY! And I kept it all a secret.. I'm saying.. I'm good!"....or something like that...
Where iz the remorse in that statement?... I'll do you one better where iz the respect that iz attached to that Love word that we throw around soo much in that statement?
Truth iz--> If they are really sorry. That statement would have never parted their lips:: "I could have not told you"..NO! BING!.."I understand your anger. I could have loved and respected you enough to not have done it in the 1st place & I throw myself to your feet, please be merciful OH! I am not worthy of your AWESOMENESS".. eh.. There's a start.
Can't say I haven't heard it a couple times in my life.. What about you?
The Manic-Depressive Poet Who Enjoys Killing People With His Mind. Never trusts big butts and smiles even tho he likes big butts...he cannot lie... OH THE CONFUSION!
Tired niggas, young-minded women, tosses and Baby mommas coined that phrase. Avoid them.
ReplyDeleteNo, there's no remorse.
yeh...."i could've not told you" is them trying to find SOME sort of right with themselves...its about them, trying to 'RIGHT" something, b/c they are hoping it will make THEM feel better about THEMSELVES! fuck them! keep it movin. take your time before throwing love around....get to know someone really as your homie before you decide to get caught up ....
ReplyDeletethe wrongness in the situation may fall on both sides, depending on...
ReplyDeleteon one hand, the person coming clean shouldn't try to justify any heinous act by making the rationale that he or she could've just kept the secret. when a person feels guilty, they may try to lighten the weight by pointing out to themselves and to the abused that "i'm not complete scum...i DID tell you, didn't i?" does this make what they did hurt less? no. does this excuse rude behavior? no. should they be given credit? well...
on the other hand, sometimes when you're on the receiving end of bad news, you should really check yourself as you react. the virtuous thing to do is tell the truth in any situation, but reality strikes differently if you are trying to tell a deeply sensitive or hot tempered person something you know will send them over the edge. it does take guts. it does require a bit of courage. if you are aware of the type of lunacy you're up against and you brave the truth anyway, it doesn't make any secret less damaging, but it is one step forward in re-gaining one's integrity. sometimes our reaction to things makes it nearly impossible for someone to be brutally honest. who would voluntarily walk into THAT shitstorm??? it's just like that line in that movie that's been used way too many times "can you handle the truth?"
that is the question.
If you don't want to brave a shitstorm, don't do that thing to begin with. And it's not a step towards regaining their integrity if they're gonna do it again...either with you or the next person. It's selfish for someone to say that, along with whatever bs they did.
ReplyDeleteso are we to assume that no one ever hurts anyone? in ideal terms, we shouldn't do things to hurt people. but in real life, it happens... in real life (it bears repeating). sometimes, its what you do after the fact that matters.
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